Keep the fire burning
If you recall, during the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, I was wondering why we are building up anxiety, excitement, passion, sexual desire and so on and then comes Tuesday, the day after Valentine’s Day and we start to talk about business, office issues, financial problems, school events, but nothing about love, loving relationships, or planning for the next love-in-the-afternoon event.
I think it is important to “keep the fire burning” throughout the year. It takes so little time or effort, but the rewards are tremendous. All you need to do is carve out some time from your busy schedule and spend it with your mate. This can be as simple as setting up a “Table for 2” in your dining room with soft lights, flowers, a bottle of wine and a meal prepared in collaboration. You will not only keep the lines of communication open, but also delight in each other’s company as you prepare a meal together. Perhaps for extra effort, you could set the table with your good china and flatware and use fabric napkins to add a “touch of class.” You may place votive candles on the table and some taper candles nearby to enhance the romantic atmosphere. I recommend odorless so that you and your partner can fully enjoy the succulent aromas wafting up from your dinner plates. You know what they say, “the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”.
Heating up the kitchen together can help to heat things up between you and your partner, as well. If it gets too hot, just open the bottle of wine while you both preparing the ingredients and begin to cook your meal for just the two of you (and if needed, you can have a second bottle at the table). Relish this time together in the kitchen, working side-by-side chopping veggies, measuring spices, inhaling the aromas and all the while sipping a glass of Pinot Noir – can it get any better?
